"What Do You Think of My House"
Have you ever asked your architect friend “what do you think of my house?” Don’t. Or at least don’t if you don’t want them to have to lie to you. Most architects I know have what one might call a “discerning palette.” They are pickier than my 5 year old at dinner time and will lie to you like my 18 year old at dinner time.
It’s not that your house is “bad,” or “ugly,” or anything else, it’s just most likely that your house is both bad and ugly at the same time and deep inside he is thinking that he can’t get out of it fast enough and wonders how you could possible live there without becoming Archie Bunker or Ward Cleaver, depending on which neighborhood you live in. The next thought they are having is why you didn’t think to ask him that opinion BEFORE you “built” your house that was designed by the 19 year old nephew of the developers wife who took a drafting class in high school and is still using his ripped off copy of AutoArchitect and whose idea of custom is letting you pick between hollow core flat or 6-panel doors and the color of the paint.
The question is, how much do they value their friendship with you. That will determine how creative they are with the lie they make up. You see, an architect may design hundreds of houses and therefore he claims ownership of all them. If one is not so good, he can go on to the next one with little emotional investment. You only own one house. If it’s bad, well, that sucks. If your architect friend told you he loved your house and was impressed with the creative use of negative space and its ability to both homogenize with the neighborhood and express your individuality, don’t think of it so much as he’s a big fat liar, but more like, he must really like you because of the effort he put into that whopper of subterfuge.
You got yourself a real friend there. But if you want to be a good friend to him, don’t ask. If you don’t ask, (most likely) he won’t tell, and you can both go home happy!